Babymoons are fairly new concepts, but whoever came up with the idea is nothing short of brilliant. Let’s face it, once baby arrives, life changes dramatically. And in so many ways, the changes are good. They’re beautiful changes that fill your heart with so much love it just might explode.
But at the same time, those sleepless nights, endless days of entertaining a little one, and never-ending piles of laundry do add some new challenges to one’s marriage. If you’ve been reading my blog for awhile then you might remember that one of my biggest fears going into motherhood was how becoming a mom could potentially affect my marriage in a negative light.
And yeah, sure, it has been tougher.
When a baby comes, it’s not just you and your hubby anymore… You can’t spontaneously step out of the house for a movie or bite to eat. Traveling becomes more difficult, partly due to lack of money and partly due to inconvenience. The romance is tougher to make time and energy for, because you literally crash the moment baby falls asleep.
And suddenly the advice of more seasoned parents makes sense: “Marriage takes work.”
But here’s the thing… I think I’ve said it before, and now I’m just more convinced than ever. Marriage actually takes fun.
Because it’s soooooo easy to forget to laugh together… Just you two. Not over your toddler’s silly antics, but because you and your husband (your best friend) both got caught up in a tickle match. It’s easy to forget to kiss – like really kiss – instead of the quick-peck that becomes habit when you’re in a rush. To forget to talk – like really talk – about books, and fun plans, and the day’s activities.
It’s just easier to fall into a worn-out routine that needs a bit of spontaneity and spice.
Maybe life is busier now and won’t go back to that ‘just us’ stage, but it doesn’t mean that your marriage can’t be just as strong. As with any stage of life, change happens. You and your husband will change once babies arrive, but it doesn’t mean that you can’t still be madly in love. And best friends. And happy.
It will just be different. And yeah, it will just take more work. (Or, more accurately, more effort to make time for fun).
I’d say that Nate and I have more challenging days since becoming parents than we did before. But those rough moments usually happen when we’ve been too busy. When we’ve lost focus on what should come first – our marriage. (Well, after God, of course). 🙂
So Babymoons… I am ALL for them! I think they’re important, almost like a promise to each other that you’ll always make time for special, ‘just us’ moments. It’s a fun experience, an amazing memory, and a great way to jump into the role of parenthood.
Many people go away for several nights (or even up to a week), but Nate and I have never been able to swing that. BUT just going away for the night and spending a day or two together is really all it takes. It’s just important to put aside the busy stuff and to spend quality time together. 🙂 For our last Babymoon, we spent the day in Boston and then stayed in a hotel that was halfway between the city and our home. It was SO much fun!
And our one-night Babymoon for this pregnancy is coming up quickly, and I am soooooo excited. Nate has been busy with work; I’ve been busy caring for a toddler and growing a baby. We definitely need this time away to spend time together AND to spend time feeling excited about our upcoming arrival.
AND this mama just needs a break with her man. 🙂 I’m SO looking forward to sitting down to eat dinner in a restaurant, and sleeping in, and enjoying a slower-paced couple of days. I’d say that our Babymoon can’t come fast enough, but – well – I do love the anticipation and planning stage too!! 🙂
Have you ever gone on a Babymoon? If you’re a parent, what’s something that you do to make sure that you and your significant other are setting aside quality time for each other?