Once upon a time (before Brady arrived), I didn’t quite understand the whole ‘mommy thing’. You know, the obsession with itty-bitty outfits, and pureeing green beans, and taking two hundred photo’s of a little human eating cake. And yet here I am, obsessively pouring over Pinterest, tidying up the kitchen after a cake smash, and planning a birthday party for a little boy who honestly couldn’t care whether or not there are tissue paper palm trees hanging from the ceiling.
All he wants is some pasta and watermelon on his tray for lunch. And maybe a sprinkle of parmesan cheese (because that’s his favorite). Oh, and that tissue paper? He wants it within reach, because it makes a fun crinkly noise whenever he shoves it into his mouth.
I have to remind myself of that sometimes… As good as Pinterest has been to me, sometimes it’s also a taunting voice in my ear that’s saying, “Do more! You must do more!” All the while, my budget and availability echo back, “Is this birthday party over with yet?”
When I found myself stressing about the upcoming parties, I knew it was time for a reality check. (Or, well, maybe a friend or two had to remind me. But still, I eventually came to the conclusion as well). 🙂
Living in the age of Pinterest definitely puts a ton of pressure on us mama’s to be the next Martha Stewart. “Welcome to my son’s birthday party. Would you like a bacon wrapped scallop? No? Well, you should definitely try the bruschetta. It’s simply out of this world!”
I decided to scrap the plan for foods that would leave me frantically rushing around the kitchen and to instead keep things simple. My focus will be quality time spent with Brady and our guests (with some easier snacks to munch on before cake and icecream). And the decorations will be kept to a minimum as to accent our home… but not to turn it into an actual jungle.
Granted, my sister and I may have really gotten into this weekend’s cake smash photo shoot, taking out all of our photography equipment and buying some new stuff. 😉 I am a mom, after all. And even though I never understood it before, I am obsessed with everything baby and all the things that come with raising one. It’s fun! It’s over-the-top fun to play with baby things and to capture every single moment in an over-the-top way (even if your original cake-smash cake came out horrible, so you were forced to wake up early to bake a second one). 😉
But for the parties themselves, I’m glad I’ve decided to keep things simple…and to keep the focus on the one thing that really matters – Brady!
As a mom, I always want the very best for my little one, but it’s easy to misplace what ‘best’ really is. There are so many must-buy toys, and adorable outfits, and toddler activities… and over-the-top birthday parties to plan. But my little guy really just wants quality time with his mommy and daddy, love, and simple things to explore and experience.
It’s the simple things in life that count. And although it can be difficult to remember that as a parent, we definitely can learn a lot about that from our little ones. 🙂 (Case in point, have you ever watched a toddler play with a cardboard box? They don’t need big and fancy in order to be happy).
As a society, we’ve definitely allowed ourselves to get caught up in stuff. And I really hope that I can instead focus on what really matters… and raise Brady to focus – and appreciate – that as well. 🙂
I can’t wait to share the cake smash photo’s with you!! But for now, here’s a sneak peak…