New Year’s resolutions tend to get a bad rap. Let’s face it, we’ve all had that one stubborn resolution (and I’m being kind here, because most of us have more than one) that just doesn’t want to be resolved… ever. And so after years and years of disappointment, failure, and defeat, many of us are choosing the high road, jumping on our soap box, and screaming to the world (or at least our Facebook friends) that we are done with stupid resolutions.
“Down to New Year’s Resolutions!! They are stupid!! Resolutions are bad!! Eat more chocolate!!”
I used to have a notebook page filled out with the various resolutions I expected to conquer during the upcoming year. Somehow I seemed to think that upon the magical strike of midnight, I would change and suddenly these struggles would all go away. And then I’d spend the rest of the year patting myself on the back and sharing my newfound wisdom with the rest of the world.
And then I woke up… “Hello, reality!”
January 1st is just another day. The same struggles I faced on December 31st will be with me when I wake up on New Year’s Day. And, here’s the kicker, that’s okay.
We’re human. We’re going to make mistakes and there will always be struggles. And no matter how many books we read, how many hours we spend watching Dr. Phil, or how many resolution goals we’ve made, we will never arrive at “there”. “There” doesn’t exist.
Life is a journey. It’s about taking one step at a time. It’s not about taking a nap while your boxcar pulls into the “there” train-station (as nice that might sound). 😉 It’s about doing better and focusing on moving forward. And it’s also about — maybe most importantly — being proud of achievements made, even if the achievement is only that you’re doing better.
We’re all a little too hard on ourselves, aren’t we?
I had goals for last year that I didn’t meet, but I sure came a long way. On January 1, 2014, I am a better person. I am a stronger, happier, and wiser person. And even though some of last year’s resolutions will be carried over into 2014, I’m finding that I’m actually okay with that. Because I’m closer to my goals, and that is worth celebrating! And even if I don’t get “there” during the next 12 months, I know that I can work at these goals a little every day, and I will sure be a whole lot closer to where I want to be.
And that is all any of us can ever be expected to do! 🙂