Whoever came up with that ever-familiar saying of “The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence” doesn’t get enough credit for their genius.
I mean, maybe they weren’t quite Einstein. But still, when it comes right down to it, they put into words something that every single one of has faced at one time or another. In my book, coming up with a handful of words that capture a feeling the entire human race can relate to is quite the accomplishment.
Lately, I’ve tried to make myself ever aware of the truth this statement holds. Although our life right now is very familiar and running like a well-oiled machine, Nate and I are standing before a giant new chapter, and the winds of change are about to turn the page.
And I’m SO okay with this that sometimes I forget to appreciate where I am now.
Of course, someday, when I’m buried up to my eyeballs in dirty diapers, I’m sure I’ll look back to those ‘goodl old days’ and wish I was still living in business attire and spending my days at the office with humans my age.
Eh… maybe not. 😉
But still, there are good things to be said for where Nate and I are right now. We have money. We can go away whenever we want. And Saturday mornings are still for sleeping in.
It’s pretty awesome, actually.
And so, when a friend of mine recently gave me some advise for the future, I was particularly interested. She and her husband recently became empty-nesters, as their youngest just left for her freshman year of college. You should have seen her and her husband celebrating their new-found freedom. They were so excited, you’d think they had won the lottery.
But, they made it very clear that they had enjoyed every single moment of raising their children. They had embraced the sleepless nights, endless diaper changes, and first steps. They enjoyed the soccer games, school plays, and visits to potential colleges. And now?? Now they were looking forward to traveling, quiet evenings at home, and turning bedrooms into sewing nooks.
“Tony and I always made it a point to enjoy the stage we were in,” she told me. “And we really did. We really did enjoy every single moment, no matter how busy we were. We knew it would be over too fast.”
I was impressed by this, because I so often become engrossed by the next step. For me, the next step will be to start a family, but – right now – I should be living in the moment and enjoying all that this chapter of my life has to offer. And someday – if God does bless us with children – I’m sure the diapers-and-sleepless nights stage will seem to drag on forever, but then it will be over so fast.
And one morning, I will wake up, turn to my husband, and realize that I too am an empty-nester and a new chapter will be starting for us.
Life isn’t about what’s over that fence or about the next step. It’s about now.
You are HERE. Learn to love it.
I know that I am. 🙂